Relationship Success: Understanding Your Values

When Im asked about the number one tip for making relationships successful, understanding your values stands out as a clear winner. Particularly, understanding non-negotiable requirements in a relationship are essential.

According to David Steele of the Relationship Coaching Institute, requirements are the deal breakers in a marriage. For example, monogamy is a deal breaker and requirement for many people. In addition to values that are requirements (non-negotiable), there are also needs that must be met. Needs are things that you really want to have, however, you would not end a relationship if they are not there.

Too many unmet needs however, can end up with a relationship failure.

For example, some professional women have a strong belief in maintaining egalitarianism in the household. They have the expectation that women and men will both have careers, share in domestic tasks, etc.

Time and time again, I see the scenario where the partner in the honeymoon phase of courting puts his/her best face forward to share how open-minded and egalitarian they are. Yes honey, I will support your career, cook for you, and help take care of the children when we have them. When reality hits and they are living together for several years, suddenly the partners work stress prevents him/her from remembering to put the dirty glasses in the dishwasher, the laundry piles up, and/or there is resentment for not getting a home cooked meal like good ole mom used to provide.

Too many unmet needs such as these can add tremendous stress to a relationship. A thorough inspection of your own values can help you maintain a healthy relationship.

For tips and tools you can use for understanding your relationship values, feel free to contact Neera Puri at http://www.bayareacoach.com

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Dr. Neera Puri is a psychologist and life coach with many self help tips for relationship success.

Eat An Elephant - It's Easier Than You Think

I believe everyone has heard the expression " you can't eat an elephant in one bite but you can eat it one bite at a time." Just recently that's exactly what I did.

What I'm really talking about here I set three goals about two months ago that I wanted to achieve and reached all of them within the time frame I had set. I got all my elephant eaten one bite at a time. While they aren't necessarily big goals they are goals, I believe, that will take me closer to a better recognition on the Internet.

In that time frame here's what I did. I started publishing a bimonthly newsletter. I wrote and submitted nine new articles on self-help and health issues. (Several have been published in other ezines). I also created a free 8-step report on goal setting for anyone to use to design an ideal lifestyle.

In addition I have an agreement with a national online newsletter with a wide readership of to write health articles. (This was not one of my planned goals) This was just an opportunity that showed up on the Internet one day. I submitted one of my health articles and they accepted it for publication. There is no telling what advantages this could turn out to be.

I don't tell this story to brag because anyone who is determined to achieve their goals or make changes in their life can do it. It's just a matter of following a plan and initiating action steps. So let me encourage you to get your own elephant and begin eating it one bite at a time. Go to my website and download my free 8-step report. The plan is designed to take you step by step for reaching your goals.

It's exactly the same formula I used when I was a sales supervisor to train my sales staff to reach some top earning goals. It's also the same methods I used to make a major career change at the age of 44 years. That is why I have such a passion to share it with you. I want to help you make any life changes you desire to make also. I know the steps work because they did for me and also for my sales staff.

If you have finally reached a point your life is a little dull. Your finances are not as large as you would like them to be. If your health is deteriorating somewhat and you are not as energetic as you would like to be. Or for whatever reason your life is not up to par then go get your own elephant right now. Start eating it every day one bite at a time. Use my 8-step formula to get started now. Follow my system and watch your life get more and more exciting everyday.

In addition go to my website for additional support. Go to the resource page and scan each site for support materials of all kinds. There are CD's, DVD's, videos and books there to help you maintain a positive attitude, give you ideas for handling roadblocks and much more.

Each time you reach one of your goals you will strengthen your attitude. You will gain more confidence to set additional goals and apply the necessary action for reaching them. Sooner or later you will have gone through a herd of elephants eating them one bite at a time.

Use these methods and your life will take on more meaning. You won't be the same person you were just a few weeks or months before. And as you look back you will realize that there has been a glorious transition in your life. I know the feeling. I have been there too. Go for it. It's fun, exhilarating and exciting.

Copyright 2007 All Rights Reserved Sonny Julius

Sonny Julius is a retired sales supervisor. He encourages anyone who is not totally satisfied with their life to "take charge" and develop the ideal lifestyle they desire most. He did exactly that at the age of 44 years when he became dissatisfied with his life. He developed and used his 8-step formula to make a major career change. It is available for free to anyone wanting to improve their life. Just go to his website http://www.Sunnyviews.com

Grandma's Proven Tips Reveal Her Self Help For Anxiety And Depression Secrets

Modern notions of success and achievement dont always jibe with more traditional notions of community, balance, and personal wellbeing. The hustle and bustle of modern life often brings with it the symptoms and syndromes associated with high stress and anxiety overeating, depression, chest pain, and a host of immune system related illnesses. Perhaps its time for you to consider the timeless wisdom of grandmas advice regarding self help for anxiety and depression.

Grandmas Tip #1: Count To Ten Before You React Not stopping to consider your statements and actions before making them is responsible for untold amounts of largely unnecessary stress, anxiety, and depression. Before reacting to anothers slight, or thoughtless behavior, stop to consider the consequences of your possible reactions. You can choose a course that escalates and magnifies tensions, or you can choose to diffuse the tension by letting it pass. Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Counting to ten before you react.

Grandmas Tip #2: Stop To Smell The Roses Why are you rushing about so? Is the world really going to end if you take fifteen minutes for yourself? Make a habit of scheduling mini stress vacations right into your day. Whether its at your workplace desk, or even in the bathroom at home, be sure to schedule 2-3 breaks of between five and fifteen minutes everyday when you shut your eyes, clear your thoughts, and work on accomplishing absolutely nothing! Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Stopping to smell the roses.

Grandmas Tip #3: Sit Down and Eat Something While overeating and obesity are huge modern day problems associated with stress, anxiety, and depression, grandma wasnt advocating unhealthy eating. The point of grandmas advice was for you to sit down, forget about the business of living, enjoy some good conversation and company, and take in a little nourishment. Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Sitting down to eat something.

Grandmas Tip #4: A Place For Everything and Everything In Its Place One sure fire way to alleviate the effects of stress and anxiety is to get organized! Aside from the obvious time savings associated with knowing where things are and not having to search around for them, it is a surprisingly true fact that an organized personal environment stimulates feelings of confidence, peace of mind, and wellbeing. Reduce and manage stress symptoms and beat anxiety and depression by creating, A place for everything, and putting everything in its place.

Grandmas Tip #5: Go Tell xxxxxx Youre Sorry Grandma was smart in knowing that unresolved conflicts will normally only fester and get worse over time if not nipped in the bud before given the chance to grow. Dont let your pride get in the way of good relationships. Take the high road by being the type of person who is quick to forgive others, and who is quick to make amends. Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Telling the other person that youre sorry.

Now, listen to grandmas advice! By following her proven tips and techniques of self help for anxiety and depression you will be going a long way towards reducing the effects of modern day stresses and strains upon your life.

There really are effective methods of self help for anxiety and depression. Find answers at http://www.facts-about-stress.info/self-help-for-anxiety-and-depression.html, where youll discover proven tips and techniques for managing stress, and how effective treatment can reduce anxiety symptoms and causes.

Dream Walking - Where Do You Go To

Dream walking and astral travelling are very similar. Astral travelling tends to be something you do alone, where dream walking is a more conscious experience where you can choose who goes with you.

It is good to set your intentions when going to sleep. You can ask your Higher Self for help with a problem or you can consciously choose to go on an adventure, using your powers of visualization and imagination.

If you have friends who are open to spiritual experiences, you could chat with them in advance and invite them along on the adventure. Distance is no object, so you can even arrange this on Chat or by SMS messaging in advance.

When bedtime comes, go to bed in a relaxed and happy way and if you feel any tension in your body, just spend a few minutes releasing that consciously, becoming aware of the different parts of your body.

Breathe into these areas and relax and expand your consciousness. Feel the more subtle aspects of the physical body  the organs, the cells and molecules; and become aware of your Energy Body or Aura, which permeates throughout the physical body.

Allow the Electromagnetic Power in your Aura to expand and connect to more aspects of yourself by grounding yourself to the Earth, reaching up with your consciousness and feelings to the planets around the Sun in our solar system and feeling their influence, like archangels guiding one's destiny.

As you connect more and more with your Energy Body and the Energy Matrix of the Zero Point Field, which is talked about in Quantum Physics, feel your chakra centres activating and coming alive. Feel the multidimensional aspects of yourself opening up and connecting you with your spirit family, healing helpers and guides within and beyond the veil. You may feel your power increasing like a magnetic presence or charisma comes around you.

When the energies feel right, remember your intentions at the beginning of the process and who is coming with you. Reach out with your feelings and start a telepathic communication with the friends you would like to take with you. You do this deep in your heart with a faint starring in your feelings; it is more the intention to send the message than anything verbal.

If they are ready too, choose to slip out of your physical body into your Energy Body and choose to focus with your feelings on the images in your imagination. See yourself soaring through time and space. This is a process of transcending your physical body consciously becoming aware if the finer and finer aspects of Self, until you transcend the physical into your light body.

Remember that you do not really travel out of yourself: you just choose to make yourself bigger and move your awareness around inside of your Self, which truly is the whole universe. It is like moving your awareness from your head to your big toe, travel from your head to your toe; you just became aware of a different aspect of yourself. So choose to feel yourself as the Universe in this expanded transcendental awareness and then choose which aspect to be aware of.

It is all about focus of intention and what you choose to create; either alone or with the friends you have chosen to have this experience with you. Connect fully to the senses in your Energy or Light Body. This is like being aware of your senses in Sixth Sense Mode.

Feel your surroundings, the warmth of the sun, the wind in your hair; smell the flowers and the freshly cut grass in the hay meadows. Start a conversation with your friend and hear their voice in your ears. Feel their hand in yours as you walk along together. You are using your powers of visualization, imagination and mixing these with your passion and desire in a very subtle dream state.

Then fully open up your imagination and your Self to the multi-dimensions of experiences you can choose to create in this state of consciousness. Enjoy your Dream Walk. Remember you are only limited by your imagination, in this state of awareness all things are possible. Please focus on the good and life supporting aspects, which will help you and your friends, live a happier more fulfilled life.

When you are finished bring your Light Body/awareness back to the here and now, reconnect with your physical body again and enjoy the rest of your night's sleep. Thank all your friends who helped with this process and send them loving thoughts.

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Using Yoga to Promote Mental Health & Fitness

When suffering from a physical illness we have obvious symptoms of pain and discomfort and rely upon familiar medical practices or natural remedies to provide relief. But psychological disturbance does not necessarily carry with it such readily discernible symptoms. This can result in the disturbance becoming clinical over time, demanding the need for psychiatric care.

In order that we avoid any anxiety about our own mental health, we need to know what the early symptoms of mental disturbance are-symptoms that have the propensity to develop into mental illness. This will enable us to be aware of any problem should it begin to develop in ourselves.

Not only that, but we need to know how we can empower ourselves to change our psychological states and habits so as to improve our mental well-being, in the event that we do develop a concern about our on psychological well-being. Studies show that the majority of people in these circumstances have little confidence about identifying or embarking upon a self-help program. Few people are aware that a proven system of psychological and intellectual betterment is at hand in the teachings of Raja Yoga.

So then, what are some of the common symptoms of mental illness?

Aside from the well known and generally acknowledged disorders such as serious stress and clinical depression which manifest in varying degrees of intensity, we can readily observe other signs of mental and emotional problems, for example:

-Exaggerated emotional responses
-Sudden mood swings
-Nervousness and fears of all kind
-Irrational speech and behavior
-Anxiety (this can apply to a limitless range of concerns)
-Chronic Allergies
-Morose or negative moods
-Lack of enthusiasm for life
-Inability to demonstrate affection
-Cruel or selfish behavior
-Chronic insomnia
-Nightmares
-Lying, stealing and other unethical behavior
-Violent behavior
-Lack of creative activity
-Reluctance to talk in a one- to-one situation
-Extreme dependence
-Inability to relax
-Unhappiness

However it is important that people don't rush headlong into self-help situations should they be experiencing one or some of these symptoms, for they man well be the result of some malady that requires the care of a health professional. In the event that such is not the case though, then some serious thought can be given to following a program of self-help; and one of the very best self-help programs a person could possibly follow-one that has stood the test of time over hundreds, even thousands of years, is Raja Yoga. People need to open their minds to the possibility that this ancient teaching can help them. They need to take a really hard look at it.

Sally Janssen is a writer and educator who from an early age trained in Raja Yoga--that branch of the ancient science that deals with the mind and its complexities. She subsequently gained an international reputation for her skills and her wisdom in the training of the mind.

In her wonderfully readable book entitled Mental Fitness: The Complete Self-help Guide she presents simple, self-help practices that help to generate and maintain mental fitness just as the natural principles of physical fitness can be personally applied by us all. The book may be found here: http://www.mentalhealthandfitness.com This really is a must-read book for us all. Sally also welcomes you to visit her blog at http://www.mentalhealthandfitness.com/blog

The Secrets of Stamina-Building

For ages, stamina has proved to be one of the major factors when it comes to combat sports, martial arts, traditional sports, and regular day-to-day activity. Stamina is the ability to keep going regardless of fatigue. Its no secret that building your stamina will lead to a better life; a new you. However, there are secrets to quickly and efficiently building your stamina that will have people questioning whether youre using steroids!

Picture this if you will: Each day you wake up full of energy and ready to take on any challenge that awaits you. If youre not a morning person, then you suddenly become one! Most people hate getting up in the morning because they feel exhausted, tired, and still want to remain in bed. Imagine yourself feeling great, the complete opposite of that, each and every morning your feet hit the floor You have the stamina to last throughout the day without needing to take a quick nap. Your increased energy levels reflect on your productiveness at work and people start to see the difference in you. You get more attention from the opposite sex and/or your significant other. You feel great and the people around you start to take notice as you impress them with the new you.

Great image, huh? You bet! And the best part is, that mental picture that I just gave you can become your reality when you: 1) Change your mindset and 2) Increase your energy levels. And the way to do this is to start building your stamina.

Why you ask? Well two reasons:

1.When you start to see progress in your attempt to build your stamina, your belief system changes. Going from an out-of-shape person to a well-build, high energy being in only a matter of weeks can and will have a very positive effect on your mindset. To sum it all up: youll believe more is possible and youll start to achieve more. It doesn't matter how impossible your goals may seem, anything that you want to achieve can be achieved with a simple change in your mindset.

2.Building your stamina by following a training regimen each day keeps you active. Heres a fact: when your body is inactive for a long period of time, your body gets used to it and you become lethargic. Doing the complete opposite by constantly being active will allow you to become more energetic and your daily energy levels will start to increase.

So when you start to increase your stamina, you start to increase yourself as a person and get more quality out of life. Youll have the energy to do more.

Ryan Dodson

If you want to start seeing a change in yourself within two weeks, I have good news for you. The secrets to quickly and efficiently building your stamina within only two weeks can be found at the Inhuman Stamina website. Now's the time to make a life-changing decision that will impact yourself as well as the people that surround you.

Psychological Freedom

Freedom.

Many consider this to be the most important word in the human language. Wars have been fought, lives lost and revolutions won, all for the goal of freedom.

In the film "Braveheart," Met Gibson played William Wallace, a 12th-century Scotsman determined to win f21D7reedom for himself and his country.

While not completely accurate historically, the film's depiction of Wallace's passion for freedom captured hearts and minds.

As I pondered the popularity of "Braveheart" and the coming Fourth of July celebration, I decided to apply the notion of freedom to our emotional and psychological lives.

In order to be emotionally and psychologically free, or to have what I'll call "mental freedom," we need to have "freedom from" and "freedom to."

Freedom from

The past - This does not mean to forget the past. It's important to remember the old saying, "Those who forget the past are condemned to repeat it."

But an important freedom is to be free of the weight, or "emotional charge," of the past.

Too much stress - A certain amount of stress is good for us; it leads us to take action. Too much stress freezes us and leads to inaction.

Pressure - Stress comes from the outside, while pressure comes from what we tell ourselves about the stress. It's "how can I ever get all this done?" vs. "I can handle this."

Pressure is an inside job.

Abuse, of any kind - There has been a lot of emphasis recently on the important issues of physical and sexual abuse. At the same time, we also need freedom from emotional and verbal abuse.

Freedom to

Achieve your potential.

Do work you enjoy.

Be yourself.

To dream - Everybody has a dream. What's yours? Go for it.

Think for yourself - Never, ever, let anyone do your thinking for you. Others may disagree with you, and that can be uncomfortable, or worse.

At the same time, as Robert Louis Stevenson once said, "Sooner or later, we all sit down to a banquet of consequences." Make decisions on a daily basis to make sure that's a banquet you would enjoy.

To love and be loved.

To say no. Unless we can say no, our yes really doesn't mean much.

To change - Whether it's a change in direction, in priorities, maturity level, beliefs, or something else equally important, the freedom to change one's life is crucial to mental freedom.

As one person so aptly said, "It's good to be able to change our lives while life is changing us."

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