I'll have to admit that this used to be a favorite belief of mine..."The Law of Attraction works for all my friends, all my client's but it won't work for me." Poor me, I think about what I want and I see that other people are getting what I want so they are doing something "right" and I am either not doing something right or I'm not smart enough or worthy enough. What a "lovely" place to be in. But contrary to popular thought, living with this belief has some apparent benefits.
1.I can feel sorry for myself, like I am somehow special because I am such a victim.
2.I don't have to have the discipline to move my thoughts towards what will make me feel good. Instead I can just wallow around in my "pitiful" thoughts.
3.I don't have to take action towards my dreams.
4.I don't have to take responsibility for my life.
5.I don't have to grow or take risks.
I can just whine! The problem with focusing on how everyone else gets what they want and I don't is that by focusing on it I am making it come true. Soon I begin to feel even worse and it gets old playing the victim! It doesn't feel good to play that "Poor Me" song very long. Not to mention it doesn't work if you want a fabulous life.
So how do you change your belief from "nothing good happens to me and life is working for everyone else but me" to a belief that supports you for instance, "Wonderful things are always happening in my life." You look around and see lot's of incidents, both now and in the past, that support your old belief. So it has to be true. Right? Well, no! The problem is you created your experiences by choosing what you focus on so it HAS been true in your past. Someone else did get the promotion you wanted. Someone else does have the career you dreamed of or a relationship like the one you desire. But guess what? The joy is that you create your reality. You can have what you want as well! All you need to do is shift your focus.
Envying what others have is one way your higher self is getting your attention. It may not feel the best but feeling envy is a clue that this is something you want. Instead of labeling that feeling as envy relabel it as desire. Then you can look at that person who has something you desire and say "Thank you! Thank you for showing me what I want and I know there is enough for both of us." In fact you can take this a step further and send out blessings every time you see someone with something you desire. For example when you see someone who is extremely successful in a career you dream of, thank them! Write them an email and thank them for their success as it encourages you to be successful too. When you see someone driving a car you desire send blessings to them. By doing this you acknowledge that there is enough for everyone! This Universe is full of abundance.
Begin looking for ways that you are being blessed right now. Look around and see how the Law of Attraction IS working for you. The way I see this work most easily in my life is by finding parking spaces. I started this a couple of years ago and it works! I just think about finding a parking space near the door knowing the right one will show up and it is amazing how often it does! Sometimes I drive up and see cars pulling out left and right until I have several spots to choose from. It's fun! This is only one example of how you can change your focus and begin focusing on how the Law of Attraction IS working for you.
Remember the Law of Attraction is a physical law like gravity. It works for everyone equally. Unfortunately, many of us use it in a way that makes us get what we DON'T want instead of what we do want. When we focus on what we don't have and feel terrible, sure enough we get more lack. Start today by focusing on what you desire, sending out blessings to those who have what you want knowing that there is plenty for you as well. And don't forget those parking spaces. I'll see you near the front door!
Leanna Fredrich is a Success Coach who helps people use the Law of Attraction to live a life of ease and joy, creating the fabulous life they dream of. Are you ready to learn more about putting The Law of Attraction into ACTION ? Take the FREE eclass at http://www.liveyourfabulouslifenow.com
Leanna Fredrich is a Success Coach who helps people use the Law of Attraction to live a life of ease and joy, creating the fabulous life they dream of. Are you ready to learn more about putting The Law of Attraction into ACTION ? Take the FREE eclass at http://www.liveyourfabulouslifenow.comJoan Borysenko