Sacred Love Building Relationships That Work - Some Essentials of the Heart

There are five simple ingredients to a great relationship. I think all of them need to be in place for the relationship to stand the test of time. Any one of them will trigger the desire to enter the relationship, but, unless all are there, the relationship just dwindles to maintenance.

The first ingredient of a great relationship

Falling in love, over and over again. Did you know that we "fall into love" with someone when we get out of our head? That means, we fall in love when we are not thinking. The irony is that we fall in love with someone because we expect nothing from them. Then, we spend the rest of our relationship with that person trying to get them to match our expectations. The fastest path around this is to acknowledge that you are going to have those expectations and they are important, but to fall in love, again and again and again, you need to have periods together where you just have time out. Fun stuff, where you just BE together without wanting anything. I call this STILLNESS but it's not still.

The second ingredient of a great relationship

The truth of human nature, (as opposed to the ego nature) is that it has two sides. Balance. So, we have a public and a private nature. They are always diametrically opposite. The total ass in public has a sweet side that they display somewhere else in life. So, in relationship, it is really common to find yourself focusing on the "darker side" of your partner, especially if you are into self-help, personal growth, yoga or meditation. You see, everyone has a good and a bad side. When we are in relationship we can easily focus on the bad side, because we become self-obsessed focusing on hiding our own bad side. It's like buying a yellow VW car. Before you buy one, none exist. After you buy one, it seems like every second person has one. When you become obsessed with changing yourself, or disowning your darker side, you can't see past the darker side of your partner. Their foibles. So, the solution here is to start to embrace your true nature, and as a result, be able to embrace the whole being that is your partner too.

The third ingredient of a great relationship

Evolve ya bastard. We tried to find a quote for the women folk, Evolve ya bitch just doesn't have the same ring too it and coming from a bloke like me, can be misinterpreted. So, simply put, "GET OVER IT." You are not a victim, shit happens in your life because you bred it. Take the fall, own your power, you cause your troubles. If you do this, you can fix this. See, if you don't cause your world, then how can you fix or change it? Evolve means to accept and UNJUDGE. That's deep stuff because it involves changing your beliefs. It also involves massive MIRRORING. Meaning seeing your own reflection in the actions and words of others. If you don't evolve in a relationship, you sabotage it and bring in the drama.

The Fourth ingredient of a great relationship

Dreams. 99% of self and relationship sabotage comes from lost vision. Now, I'm not here talking about maintenance. Like "bringing up the kids." When a couple get totally turned on by each other long term it's really because they see a great future together. It's exciting and filled with new adventures. When the libido drops or the emotion goes out, it's because that future has turned to boredom. Boredom in any area of life kills the human spirit. Now, you might say, "bringing up the kids is not boring," but really, its the same thing, day in day out. It's maintenance. I'm talking about things that you dream about. Holidays are a poor man's substitute for a great life. So, many people who lack the real vision of the future to inspire themselves, go on holidays. It's like putting a band-aid on a skin cancer. Do dreams, do vision quest together. Nothing is more important for long term sexy relationship than this.

The fifth ingredient of a great relationship

It's you. You have to turn up happy. You can't prey on your partner for happiness. Happiness is what you bring to your relationship. If you turn up bored or burned out from your job, you're going to suck the life force out of your partner. They have to put up self-protective barriers to that sort of ignorance. Get a life. Get a sport. Get a Hobie. And if you don't, you'll find yourself dreaming of sex with strangers, aka, TV Desperate Housewives. Stupid life. If your yoga class, your meditation class, your spiritual guru, your self help, your job does not send you home laughing, smiling, jumping for joy at the life you've got, then F...k it.

With Spirit and love

Chris "walk your talk" Walker

I really want to help people live to a different rhythm of life. I have done many practices to achieve inner peace, they were good, but fragile. Now, I have found stillness because life has become my meditation. I would love to share how. You see, once I thought my expectations were the best barometer of goodness. Anything that wasn't good, needed to change, or be fixed. Now, I know nature, natural law, creation. And I realise that with self-honesty, I can hold my inner peace, my stillness, wherever I go, not just on my cushion in the morning and night.
http://www.chriswalker.com.au and http://www.innerwealth.com - This is what I share.

Internet Vs Hypnosis Recordings

Initially, hypnosis failed to be a crowd pulling subject. However, nowadays it is one of the widely researched, utilized and appreciated subjects. This encouraged the advent of hypnotherapy CDs, hypno discs and hypnotist tapes. These recordings played an indispensable role in educating and informing the masses regarding the utilitarian aspects of hypnosis.

Internet: its advent

But, the very entrance of internet proved to be major set back for these recordings. To start with, these hypnosis downloads are hassle free and user friendly. Since, the web space includes millions of websites dealing with the various aspects of hypnosis, it provides infinite amount of knowledge for the researches, professionals and individuals. In addition to it, internet has also evolved as a very essential communication tool, which every minute, reaches out to millions of surfers.

The other factors that have enhanced the usage of these web downloads are

* Their easy uploading due to their storage in MP3 format.
* Privacy while listening or going through the recording or content.
* Unlimited coverage of internet as countless sites are dealing with self help guides.
* Free hypnosis sessions provided by many sites.
* Sites also offer some reliable hypnotic experiments.
* They are interactive and far reaching.

Internet makes hypnosis recordings

Nowadays, the easy format of hypnosis scripts and downloads are being used for making hypnosis CDs and tapes. Hence, along with giving tough competition to these recordings, internet is also taking up the entire control of aiding in the making of these tools.

Word of caution

No matter, how phenomenal the impact of internet might be, security and safety still remains the essential issues. Just like hypnosis recordings, it is necessary to check the reliability of the websites before using their content and downloads. The tapes and DVDs are designed by hypnotism therapists and practitioners. Hence, they have more credibility. After receiving the same assurance from the sites, one should go about utilizing it.

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Signs and Stages of Alcoholism

Alcoholism is a problem that develops in stages. As the individual continues to consume in large amounts, the signs becomes visible and one can't function properly without the influence of alcohol. Severe signs start when you start looking at yourself in the mirror for any symptoms of alcoholism and feeling guilty or offended when you are asked about your drinking habits. It also leads to withdrawal symptom where the addict enjoys drinking alone in secret places.

The alcoholics continue drinking in large amounts. They have preset time for drinking and if they fail to drink that time, the response is very aggressive. They gather in specific place after work to drink. All social and recreational activities are centered on drinking. They lose interest in activities which used to bring pleasure like hobbies, entertainment and outings with friends.

Alcoholism leads to marital disharmony. If the husband is a drinker, he won't attend social meetings that there are no drinks. The partner, being a normal person who likes to have normal social life, will get offended and this will lead to conflict. The nature of the individual changes and the loving sensitive human becomes an aggressive and reckless person. The aggression is reflected in reaction to small things at home or place of work with extreme anger.

The extreme sign is when the individual starts keeping alcohol in weird places like home or office and always drink to feel normal. Isolation is dominant at this stage. Alcohol leads to enlarged hearts with weak cardiac muscles and raised blood pressure. The lipid levels are raised which causes heart diseases like angina and cardiac failure. The effects are fatal because late stages of alcohol is not curable. The best thing is to keep the poison bottle away from you!

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Relationship Success: Understanding Your Values

When Im asked about the number one tip for making relationships successful, understanding your values stands out as a clear winner. Particularly, understanding non-negotiable requirements in a relationship are essential.

According to David Steele of the Relationship Coaching Institute, requirements are the deal breakers in a marriage. For example, monogamy is a deal breaker and requirement for many people. In addition to values that are requirements (non-negotiable), there are also needs that must be met. Needs are things that you really want to have, however, you would not end a relationship if they are not there.

Too many unmet needs however, can end up with a relationship failure.

For example, some professional women have a strong belief in maintaining egalitarianism in the household. They have the expectation that women and men will both have careers, share in domestic tasks, etc.

Time and time again, I see the scenario where the partner in the honeymoon phase of courting puts his/her best face forward to share how open-minded and egalitarian they are. Yes honey, I will support your career, cook for you, and help take care of the children when we have them. When reality hits and they are living together for several years, suddenly the partners work stress prevents him/her from remembering to put the dirty glasses in the dishwasher, the laundry piles up, and/or there is resentment for not getting a home cooked meal like good ole mom used to provide.

Too many unmet needs such as these can add tremendous stress to a relationship. A thorough inspection of your own values can help you maintain a healthy relationship.

For tips and tools you can use for understanding your relationship values, feel free to contact Neera Puri at http://www.bayareacoach.com

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Dr. Neera Puri is a psychologist and life coach with many self help tips for relationship success.

Eat An Elephant - It's Easier Than You Think

I believe everyone has heard the expression " you can't eat an elephant in one bite but you can eat it one bite at a time." Just recently that's exactly what I did.

What I'm really talking about here I set three goals about two months ago that I wanted to achieve and reached all of them within the time frame I had set. I got all my elephant eaten one bite at a time. While they aren't necessarily big goals they are goals, I believe, that will take me closer to a better recognition on the Internet.

In that time frame here's what I did. I started publishing a bimonthly newsletter. I wrote and submitted nine new articles on self-help and health issues. (Several have been published in other ezines). I also created a free 8-step report on goal setting for anyone to use to design an ideal lifestyle.

In addition I have an agreement with a national online newsletter with a wide readership of to write health articles. (This was not one of my planned goals) This was just an opportunity that showed up on the Internet one day. I submitted one of my health articles and they accepted it for publication. There is no telling what advantages this could turn out to be.

I don't tell this story to brag because anyone who is determined to achieve their goals or make changes in their life can do it. It's just a matter of following a plan and initiating action steps. So let me encourage you to get your own elephant and begin eating it one bite at a time. Go to my website and download my free 8-step report. The plan is designed to take you step by step for reaching your goals.

It's exactly the same formula I used when I was a sales supervisor to train my sales staff to reach some top earning goals. It's also the same methods I used to make a major career change at the age of 44 years. That is why I have such a passion to share it with you. I want to help you make any life changes you desire to make also. I know the steps work because they did for me and also for my sales staff.

If you have finally reached a point your life is a little dull. Your finances are not as large as you would like them to be. If your health is deteriorating somewhat and you are not as energetic as you would like to be. Or for whatever reason your life is not up to par then go get your own elephant right now. Start eating it every day one bite at a time. Use my 8-step formula to get started now. Follow my system and watch your life get more and more exciting everyday.

In addition go to my website for additional support. Go to the resource page and scan each site for support materials of all kinds. There are CD's, DVD's, videos and books there to help you maintain a positive attitude, give you ideas for handling roadblocks and much more.

Each time you reach one of your goals you will strengthen your attitude. You will gain more confidence to set additional goals and apply the necessary action for reaching them. Sooner or later you will have gone through a herd of elephants eating them one bite at a time.

Use these methods and your life will take on more meaning. You won't be the same person you were just a few weeks or months before. And as you look back you will realize that there has been a glorious transition in your life. I know the feeling. I have been there too. Go for it. It's fun, exhilarating and exciting.

Copyright 2007 All Rights Reserved Sonny Julius

Sonny Julius is a retired sales supervisor. He encourages anyone who is not totally satisfied with their life to "take charge" and develop the ideal lifestyle they desire most. He did exactly that at the age of 44 years when he became dissatisfied with his life. He developed and used his 8-step formula to make a major career change. It is available for free to anyone wanting to improve their life. Just go to his website http://www.Sunnyviews.com

Grandma's Proven Tips Reveal Her Self Help For Anxiety And Depression Secrets

Modern notions of success and achievement dont always jibe with more traditional notions of community, balance, and personal wellbeing. The hustle and bustle of modern life often brings with it the symptoms and syndromes associated with high stress and anxiety overeating, depression, chest pain, and a host of immune system related illnesses. Perhaps its time for you to consider the timeless wisdom of grandmas advice regarding self help for anxiety and depression.

Grandmas Tip #1: Count To Ten Before You React Not stopping to consider your statements and actions before making them is responsible for untold amounts of largely unnecessary stress, anxiety, and depression. Before reacting to anothers slight, or thoughtless behavior, stop to consider the consequences of your possible reactions. You can choose a course that escalates and magnifies tensions, or you can choose to diffuse the tension by letting it pass. Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Counting to ten before you react.

Grandmas Tip #2: Stop To Smell The Roses Why are you rushing about so? Is the world really going to end if you take fifteen minutes for yourself? Make a habit of scheduling mini stress vacations right into your day. Whether its at your workplace desk, or even in the bathroom at home, be sure to schedule 2-3 breaks of between five and fifteen minutes everyday when you shut your eyes, clear your thoughts, and work on accomplishing absolutely nothing! Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Stopping to smell the roses.

Grandmas Tip #3: Sit Down and Eat Something While overeating and obesity are huge modern day problems associated with stress, anxiety, and depression, grandma wasnt advocating unhealthy eating. The point of grandmas advice was for you to sit down, forget about the business of living, enjoy some good conversation and company, and take in a little nourishment. Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Sitting down to eat something.

Grandmas Tip #4: A Place For Everything and Everything In Its Place One sure fire way to alleviate the effects of stress and anxiety is to get organized! Aside from the obvious time savings associated with knowing where things are and not having to search around for them, it is a surprisingly true fact that an organized personal environment stimulates feelings of confidence, peace of mind, and wellbeing. Reduce and manage stress symptoms and beat anxiety and depression by creating, A place for everything, and putting everything in its place.

Grandmas Tip #5: Go Tell xxxxxx Youre Sorry Grandma was smart in knowing that unresolved conflicts will normally only fester and get worse over time if not nipped in the bud before given the chance to grow. Dont let your pride get in the way of good relationships. Take the high road by being the type of person who is quick to forgive others, and who is quick to make amends. Reduce and manage the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression by, Telling the other person that youre sorry.

Now, listen to grandmas advice! By following her proven tips and techniques of self help for anxiety and depression you will be going a long way towards reducing the effects of modern day stresses and strains upon your life.

There really are effective methods of self help for anxiety and depression. Find answers at http://www.facts-about-stress.info/self-help-for-anxiety-and-depression.html, where youll discover proven tips and techniques for managing stress, and how effective treatment can reduce anxiety symptoms and causes.

Dream Walking - Where Do You Go To

Dream walking and astral travelling are very similar. Astral travelling tends to be something you do alone, where dream walking is a more conscious experience where you can choose who goes with you.

It is good to set your intentions when going to sleep. You can ask your Higher Self for help with a problem or you can consciously choose to go on an adventure, using your powers of visualization and imagination.

If you have friends who are open to spiritual experiences, you could chat with them in advance and invite them along on the adventure. Distance is no object, so you can even arrange this on Chat or by SMS messaging in advance.

When bedtime comes, go to bed in a relaxed and happy way and if you feel any tension in your body, just spend a few minutes releasing that consciously, becoming aware of the different parts of your body.

Breathe into these areas and relax and expand your consciousness. Feel the more subtle aspects of the physical body  the organs, the cells and molecules; and become aware of your Energy Body or Aura, which permeates throughout the physical body.

Allow the Electromagnetic Power in your Aura to expand and connect to more aspects of yourself by grounding yourself to the Earth, reaching up with your consciousness and feelings to the planets around the Sun in our solar system and feeling their influence, like archangels guiding one's destiny.

As you connect more and more with your Energy Body and the Energy Matrix of the Zero Point Field, which is talked about in Quantum Physics, feel your chakra centres activating and coming alive. Feel the multidimensional aspects of yourself opening up and connecting you with your spirit family, healing helpers and guides within and beyond the veil. You may feel your power increasing like a magnetic presence or charisma comes around you.

When the energies feel right, remember your intentions at the beginning of the process and who is coming with you. Reach out with your feelings and start a telepathic communication with the friends you would like to take with you. You do this deep in your heart with a faint starring in your feelings; it is more the intention to send the message than anything verbal.

If they are ready too, choose to slip out of your physical body into your Energy Body and choose to focus with your feelings on the images in your imagination. See yourself soaring through time and space. This is a process of transcending your physical body consciously becoming aware if the finer and finer aspects of Self, until you transcend the physical into your light body.

Remember that you do not really travel out of yourself: you just choose to make yourself bigger and move your awareness around inside of your Self, which truly is the whole universe. It is like moving your awareness from your head to your big toe, travel from your head to your toe; you just became aware of a different aspect of yourself. So choose to feel yourself as the Universe in this expanded transcendental awareness and then choose which aspect to be aware of.

It is all about focus of intention and what you choose to create; either alone or with the friends you have chosen to have this experience with you. Connect fully to the senses in your Energy or Light Body. This is like being aware of your senses in Sixth Sense Mode.

Feel your surroundings, the warmth of the sun, the wind in your hair; smell the flowers and the freshly cut grass in the hay meadows. Start a conversation with your friend and hear their voice in your ears. Feel their hand in yours as you walk along together. You are using your powers of visualization, imagination and mixing these with your passion and desire in a very subtle dream state.

Then fully open up your imagination and your Self to the multi-dimensions of experiences you can choose to create in this state of consciousness. Enjoy your Dream Walk. Remember you are only limited by your imagination, in this state of awareness all things are possible. Please focus on the good and life supporting aspects, which will help you and your friends, live a happier more fulfilled life.

When you are finished bring your Light Body/awareness back to the here and now, reconnect with your physical body again and enjoy the rest of your night's sleep. Thank all your friends who helped with this process and send them loving thoughts.

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